The Joys of January

Joy has been the center of my life and my word for 2019 and I refuse to let anything come between that for any situation I come face to face with this year. January is just about over and we have experienced so much joy!

The first Of many joys we experienced this month was our faith in God. We kept Him at the top of our marriage and everything else just fell into place. It can be hard at times, but it’s SO worth it.

Another joy we experienced was with our daughter, Kaylee. We have been through so many trials of medications for her ADHD and we finally have the right medication that allows her to focus, to overcome, and to be the best that she can be🙌🏻

Joy also came last night as we celebrated and fellowshipped life with girlfriends from church! Our church isn’t a church filled with heard drama-it’s a church filled with love-Love for the believers, the nonbeliever, and people who want to know how to be filled with so much of Christ’s love. Our church loved my husband and me at a time when we didn’t love us and ourselves. They showed us compassion, love, and how to overcome, through prayers and love.

Another joy we faced this month was our finances. After meeting with a guy from our church about finances, he has been consistent with prayer for us and helping us lead the way and take control of our money.

This is just the first month of the brand new year and we have experienced a tremendous amount of JOY already. I can’t wait to see what God has in store for us in February.

Xoxo

Jess Chattin

Greatest Present of All

This morning while we gathered around the tree opening gifts, I imagined myself being around the manger, witnessing the greatest gift that God has sent for us, A Savior. I couldn’t imagine the excitement and overwhelming feelings I would have felt being around the manger, with Mary, Joseph, and our new Savior, like we do when we open our presents on Christmas morning-it wouldn’t have compared-At All.

John 3:17 states, ” For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save us through him.”

Jesus learned, while growing, great obedience through sacrifice and suffering.

Without the help of the Holy Spirit, the incarnation of Jesus would have not been possible.

Gods deep love and spirit offers us the opportunity to receive this gift and I hope that is the most important gift you chose today!

Jess Chattin

xoxo

Merry Christmas

This year we wanted the focus of our Christmas to be on the true meaning of Christmas-Jesus!

The kids were in a Christmas pageant at our church, Eastlake Community Church in beautiful Smith Mountain Lake, Virginia.

We had presents under the tree…

…and even had a nativity scene.

The nutcracker and presents wanted to know what their place was and how they represented the great news of all time.

The angel explained to everyone that the tree stood for life, everlasting life.

The lights on the tree represented the stars that shined bright for the wisemen to deliver such sacred gifts to the newborn king and everyone else who needed light to meet such a new savior.

As a mom to three children, I was super proud to take the focus off presents and acknowledging Jesus’ presence in the world, this Christmas.

Enjoy your Christmas with your family as we do the same!

Don’t forget that tomorrow when you wake up, pray to begin your day and thank God for sending us a savior!

Jess Chattin

xoxo

Sneaky, Elves

When I say that my love language has never been spoken this much before-is an understatement. My husband continues to deliver and show me love in ways he has never before as a husband and a dad. His creativity has reached a new creative level.

On the night before they exit, Charlie, Mittens, and Snowflake painted daddy’s toenails nand left them a little message!

…..and his note said to let him sleep 😂

Finding Joy in Jesus, Motherhood, and being a Godly Wife

Over the past couple of months, our marriage has been on a rocky road, that seemed to never end.

I had lost that joy in my life that I longed for as a mom, wife, and daughter of a king that is required to have a strong faithful marriage.

Let’s rewind back to when my husband and I first got married. Things were happening and like a godly woman, I had to take over. I wasn’t happy about being the leader of the household, but it’s what needed to get done for order to happen in our marriage.

On top of being a newly wife, we were staggered with looking to purchase our first home, pregnant with our first child, and things were going well for our family.

We jumped in and kept on going, but keep in mind, I was still the head of the household on top of being a mom, a wife, and just trying to finagle everyday life.

It happened. I lost my JOY. I became overly overwhelmed and exhausted from being the head of the household, I couldn’t find my own joy-I LOST IT.

I knew with these few steps, that WE could find that JOY we had so longed for again-the darkness we have been in for eternity, or what seemed like eternity.

  1. Our Attention had to purely be focused on the Lord.

If we were about to embrace the fact that we wanted to drive out of darkness, our end destination needed to be God himself.

2. Don’t take detours that lead away from the Lord.

When you are with God, the devil is always two steps ahead to try and steal that JOY you longed to get back in your marriage. We focused on taking those detours that led away from the Lord.

3. To get back our JOY, we needed to put each other second.

Second? Yes, second! As long as we have God in our life and HE is first in our marriage, everything else will fall into place.

We have started regaining our JOY, one day at a time. Marriage isn’t easy, but God never promised we would live in a peaceful easy perfect world and for that I’m thankful that I can lean on HIS perfection to guide my life to regain my JOY.

 

 

Jess Chattin

XOXO

2019 New Year’s Resolution

This year, I vented. I vented to my mother in law, my friends, my girlfriends, and everyone else who just listened. While they offered support, advice, and sympathy, I wasn’t getting what I really needed-Strength.

Even as Christian moms, we forget that we need to pray first for our struggles. It’s super easy to have a friend sympathize, but the true creator, Our Lord and Savior, wants and desires us to bring it all to him-you know since HE gave his all for us!

As I begin this new year, my focus will be to give all my struggles, faithfully to HIM first. Everything else will just fall into place.

Jess Chattin, Mom

Xoxo

Livin’ that Softball Mom Life⚾️

Hey Friends👋🏻,

Fall sports have started already and our kiddos are off to a great start.

Walker is loving the football life, a sport that is new to our family. We’ve been on edge for the fear of safety, but we are managing it one day at a time.

The “Football Mom” life is a little different from all the rest of the sports. We are still in the beginning stages of practices, not a first game until the beginning of September. I’m adjusting rather well, in my opinion, still different, but adjusting. Maybe I can gather my thoughts and feelings as we get deeper into the season.

Chelsea is doing amazing and following her sister’s path with softball. She dropped soccer, but wants to wait until next year.

Let’s discuss Kaylee…

Kaylee is a bright kid that needs a lot of encouragement. She loves softball and does AMAZING, but she struggles with getting in the swing of things and getting off on a great start.

The last practice, the coach invited the Stealerz softball team to join in and help work with the girls, which was a lot of fun. The girls really seemed to be enjoying their time.

Kaylee struggled with wanting to participate-crying and struggling to join in…

I kindly asked one of the players from the travel team if she could encourage Kaylee and she did.

I want you to meet Emma👆🏻She’s standing next to KK in the picture.

Emma encouraged Kaylee and stayed with her, by her side, the entire time. Kaylee loved the extra attention. It made her feel amazing and special.

Fast forward to last nights practice and Kaylee lost it. She gave up and complained that she didn’t want to continue with softball anymore, but this mom wasn’t going to stop her baby girl from playing one of her favorite sports.

After 1/2 of the practice was over, Kaylee finally came to and wanted to rejoin her team. She asked me if I could walk her over and find out where she needed to go and her coach said to go bat.

Kaylee gave a great first swing and knocked the ball out of the park.

Everyone was cheering for her, her coaches engaged all of the other players and teammates to cheer Kaylee on. I think Kaylee became overwhelmed with excitement and missed, BUT she participated and didn’t give up! That’s what is important.

Never give up on your child because sometimes they just need that extra push or extra encouragement to get through practice. Recreational sports is all about learning and making new friends and involvement. I’m so grateful our kiddos have a great positive environment in the sports industry.

Sincerely,

Just Jess💕

The love of a Tree

In April 2010, we purchased our first home. Our yard was missing something and we drove to Home Depot to find that something. Outside, we found a baby pear tree on clearance and decided to bring it home and put it in our yard. Fast forward eight years and this week my mom has our kiddos. Chris and I decided it was time to nurture our marriage and give the love and attention our marriage longed for before it was too late. As I looked out the window attempting to do our dishes and clean the dishwasher out, I looked outside at our tree that I usually look at when I look outside my kitchen window, and noticed how tall it was getting and how much it had grown over the past several years.Then I thought to myself, “Dang, that tree has seen a lot..” things like the kids riding their bikes, sprinkler days, snowy days, days where we sat on the porch watching the cars go by and the not so good times-throwing things out of the house, the many slammed doors that were followed by getting in a car and driving off, and so on.I looked at that tree and our marriage and wondered to myself…That tree is like Gods love for us. The tree is grounded and secure just as God’s Love is for us.While, it’s obvious that the tree is not God, the tree is a clear daily reminder that regardless of whether the tree blooms or not, it’s still grounded. Just as in our marriage. If we continue to lay down God’s love for us as a foundation of our marriage, we, too can be grounded, just like the tree. Have a great night!Xo

Presence not Presents

I remember when I was younger my mom would let me go to a friends house for a sleepover for weeks at a time (ok, maybe not weeks, but the idea that trust was all around ok-I survived)These days it’s super hard to say yes to sleepovers because you just never know the background of the family, unless you truly know them personally. I had this conversation with a couple of friends lately when asked what they wanted for their birthday and I responded by saying “Nothing. Just your presence will suffice” These days, it seems kids are happiest most when they have the people who love them in their lives at their special events. No gifts needed, just special quality time doing something fun and entertaining! We celebrated all of the kids birthday parties by having a paint party at sweet frog. Saved money by not making/buying a cake and had them get ice cream. The painting kept them distracted and quiet so there really wasn’t much chaos going on.We told everyone no presents because, well, really, the kids were already having so much fun painting that presents would only be a distraction. (But were very grateful for the presents they did receive)Im in favor of having all of the kids party at once and just celebrating small birthdays with immediate family with a cake. We will be doing this again next year, for sure!Here are some fun photos from the fun festivities.xo

Marriage

Love is Patient…….I wish my body was just as thin as my patience. Love is kind….well, sometimes, it’s hard to be kind when the clothes basket is sitting right next to his bed and he still misses the basket.Love is…..A mess.As I sit here, I’m laying next to my three kids and am praying for Friday to come so we can get a “break” from our kiddos! (Actually, I just kicked them out for fighting)Our marriage is in desperate need for a restart and a break is desperately needed!!! I wish family lived closer to keep them overnight every once in a while to help our marriage, but it doesn’t always work that way, because that’s life.You’re the happiest on your wedding day and all events leading up to the wedding never prepare you for the rough times in life. I mean, sure, a kitchen mixer is needed, but how will that solve your argument when your spouse went over budget. How do you learn to get through a fight successfully when your bridesmaids throw you a lingerie party? A friend recently went through a year or five rough patch in their marriage and I asked them how did you not leave your spouse..He/she replied “If God can send his son to die on the cross for my sins and my spouses, then I can be patient and continue on and follow his commands” (something to that effect)It sounded really good and it made me think for a while..Everyone has rough patches, just no one talks about them (I wish people did-it would help other marriages)God didn’t promise my marriage would be easy, he just promised that our marriage would be fulfilled if we kept him at the center of our marriage.Marriage with rough patches, then kids on top of that?! 😳That’s a whole post later!!Pray for our marriage and we will do the same for yours! Hopefully we can focus on the freedome he provided for us this 4th of JulyXo

Summer Days

It was so HOT today that I think I melted off baby fat(😂I wish…but it felt that way at least)

Side note: I did hear we will have a promising winter: ❄️ 🙌🏻 ⛄️

The kiddos have been busy with camps.

Kaylee has been to a girls Stem camp, for 4H camp, dance camp, and after her birthday party, she is off to her Memaw’s house for a week

Chelsea has been to dance camp and part of the good neighbors camp.

Walker has been to part of the good neighbors camp.

The girls worked really hard showing their love of the Lord through dance.

We got an inexpensive membership to Mariners landing and the kiddos really enjoy swimming! A mini vacation away from home for the day!

The girls also did a Girl Scout event where they got a tour of Sweet Frog. They had a blast and even earned a badge!

Chris and I have been taking the kiddos to the local high school to let them ride their bikes, it’s been so nice to have them do that:)

After a few tries, we finally have our porch the color we want it!! Boy, that was a mess!

We are almost half way through summer and we are getting there!

Xo

When Mom does things vs. When Dad does it…

Last night I received a message asking if Chelsea could be at church to do a video promo for her baptism at church, the only option I had was to have my husband take her to church. Having my husband take Chelsea to church meant that he had to do her hair, get her dressed, and make her overall appearance not look so raga-muffinish🙄

I thoroughly envisioned Chelsea with curly hair, a nice bow, and just a tad bit of blush…along with a beautiful blue and white dress with a cardigan and nice flats to go with her attire.

Boy, I surely needed a pinch to wake up from that dream!!!😡

I even went as far as plugging in the curling iron for him to curl Chelsea’s hair.

I mean, everyone at church is going to see this video, so, like any mom would, you would want your child to look nice/appropriate.

I kindly asked Chris if he could text me a picture of how Chelsea looked before she was interviewed and he sends me a picture of her with straight pushed back hair, chapped lips, and a dress with Cinderella leggings and farm boots!! 🙇🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

I saw this picture and had to share because it was how I was feeling in the moment the picture had been sent to me.

Now, just a side note, that I’m blessed to have a great husband who is involved in his kids lives, but sometimes moms and dads differ on appearance. 🙄

Then, I chatted with our daughter and she put me in my place.

“Mom. Jesus does not care about the outside-he only cares about the inside and you should be like that…”

YIKES!

Isn’t it great that when we have differences that ultimately the inside is all that matters?!

Remember that next time you’re running late for work in the morning trying to get the kids out the door for school, so they don’t miss the bus and you’re not late for work.

March Snow Day

We went to bed last night with showers and teeth brushed just in case the snow was minimal, but woke up to snow, snow, snow, and schools closed.

My kids know how much I love snow and they were quite prepared to have a photo session in the snow!

There was no screaming, yelling, bickering, or name calling all day today and it was heaven!

Snow is such a great reminder of God’s grace. Beautiful things can happen when you “stick” together, just like we did today. The snow also brings a small reminder that He makes all things new, with the snow that He brings- sometimes we need things to be new or a restart or a fresh start.

While, I think we are done with the snow, for this year, I know we made memories today that will last forever!

Snow is another reminder to enjoy the times with your children, because they are only so small for just a little while and then they’re grown and gone (from what I hear anyway)

We decided to introduce our baby chicks to the snow:

I’m pretty sure they enjoyed themselves, just as much as we did today.

The laundry piled with wet snowy clothes and the floors filled with snowy water as boots were thrown off and hands needed to be warmed. These are days where you really don’t care about the laundry and move it further down your list to take all the fun times in and soak them up.

So, for now, I’ll remind myself that while the laundry may need to be done because they need clothes for tomorrow, it’ll get done and I’ll remind myself not to worry.

I hope you enjoyed your Snow Day just as much as we did!

Mom Flu

Mom Flu

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Like, the flu, except no one gives a crap!

Yikes, that was an I’ve had enough, I’m tired of dealing with the sickness, over the whining kind of statements-from the family kind of statement.

Mom had the flu B and there was no rest for the weary-except the dishes didn’t get done.

When it comes to sickness in our house, like it has been for the past month and a half, no one cares. While moms, I mean, ME🙋🏼‍♀️, are struggling, and I mean struggling, to take care of everything from disinfecting the house, to making sure there are cleanly spoons for bowls of cereal that will be eaten for dinner, or that all required medicine is given approximately on time or that absent notes are sent in for correct child with the corresponding missed school dates, on top of having the flu yourself-no one cares. Time doesn’t stop so that you can have “healing” time-No, life continues onward.

That’s pretty much how it has been for the past couple of weeks in our house, then, while Bible Journaling, I came across a verse in my favorite book:

Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

That was such a powerful verse to read and that I needed to see because I know our time on earth is short and it’s my wifely and motherly duty to provide love, care, and attention to my family, even when I’m not feeling so well. It’s what we are called to do.

So, for now, I’ll take in the glorious tasks of doing my part and enjoy the company of our sweet Lord’s presence and my family that drives me bonkers-even at my worst times.

Chaos & Love

It’s quarter to seven in the morning and I’m halfway falling off the bed from a little boy who needed mama and a baby girl who also needed mama. Regardless of the time, I needed to journal.

Oh, if you’re wondering where my husband and other child are- they are sleeping on the couch. Not because we are fighting or mad at each other, but because he had a really nice sleep and our little girl wanted to sleep next to him. 💜

The chaos can be fun and other times it can be disastrous. We have to choose how to respond to it..

1. Do we want to Love through the Chaos, or

2. Be Bitter through the Chaos

It’s hunting season and while raising three kids is hard all by itself, life goes on and doesn’t stop for anyone.

I find myself getting bitter at the beginning of hunting season because I instantly become a single mom/widow/whatever you want to call it, but, regardless, I’m the one trying to resolve and argue with my kids who will be cleaning up the cow poop they stepped in and brought it into the house.

I find priorities being pushed back further and further.

Somehow, my husband can come home at 7:30-8pm and be exhausted from working all day on the family farm, but I’m still left to keep the house running.

Dishes can be piled up and not get clean and like our dishwasher currently that is not cleaning the dishes and leaving residue-I’m the one who is responsible for getting them done.

I’m not bitter, I just want to be better.

Ok, let’s put all that aside and look at the positives:

  • My husband is not having glamorous love affairs on 9th street
  • My husband isn’t selling or using drugs
  • My husband surely isn’t running a small town sweat shop

NO!

He is…

  • Working hard
  • Helping his family
  • Hunting to provide the steady flow of meat our family needs to survive
  • Teaching our children life lessons that will never be taught anywhere else

The Chaos immediately turns into Love when I see my husband setting a good Godly example for our family. The Love he shares through hunting, processing, and other things they do on the farm will be passed on to our children.

The Chaos comes to a halt when he fits in hunting time together for just the two of us🦌

For now, I’m going to continue to pray that God continues to keep us together through all this chaos..I’m going to pray that God continues to show his love through my husband and our children learning life lessons that can only be taught through our Lord.

Do you find yourself and your life being Chaotic?

Share with how you handle it..I’d love to hear from you💜

Life happens when Summer ends..

Well, summer exactly hasn’t ended yet; with these summer like temperatures, will we ever see fall?! I can’t enjoy hiking trips with 85 degrees and 200% humidity! Yuck!

Chelsea was recently in the Miss Bedford County Pageant and she had a blast! She was ecstatic that her prize was a princess Bible and a necklace! She was so excited, she wants to participate again next year! Also, we got her dress on eBay for $11!!! How awesome is that!

She was a great candidate!

We took our very first Chattin/Switzer Vacation to Virginia Beach!! We had a blast and although, I’m ready for fall, even in September the ocean was still warm enough to swim.

October 5th is bring your bible to school day and our three kiddos brought their bibles to school and shared with their friends! We are so proud of them! Walker came home asking if we could buy his friends a Bible since they said they didn’t have one-what a sweet and thoughtful boy💙

The kiddos are collecting money/donations for a new church and they have been recruiting sweet donations! They are so proud!! I hope God continues to show them their path-they are following it according to his will💜

We enjoyed a little Target fun!!!

I also had the opportunity to teach a lesson to the children at our church!!! I’m so blessed to have had the opportunity!

It’s passed my 7:45pm bedtime and I’m getting sleepy-I’ll post sooner than later for the next time and not in bed!

Just so you moms know out there-You rock and are doing an amazing job momming!!💜😘

Science Project: Color & Light

With summer coming to a close, and school right around the corner for most of us, or if you’re like my family, who started school this past Monday, then you’re ready to get into gear with helping your kiddos learn at home just as much as they learn at school.
Below is an activity that teachers, parents, and families can do at home and/or school to begin the school year with more knowledge than with what you started.
Please send us feedback if you had made an attempt to try this project and share your pictures! Post them to our facebook page @momsminivansmesses; Using the hashtag #momsminivansmesses at instagram, and post your pictures right here to our website!
I have also added this link to my blog! Feel free to choose from many other projects that will be beneficial to your children, families, and schools for years to come!
Brightly colored liquids in glass vials.
Color & Light

 

Possible Hypotheses:
All colors absorb the same amount of sunlight.
Some colors absorb more sunlight than others.

Materials:
Four tall clear glasses
Water
Food coloring
Immersion thermometer

Procedure:

  1. Fill the glasses with the same amount of cold water. Record the temperature of the water.
  2. Add 20 drops of red food coloring to one glass, 20 drops of yellow to one glass, and 20 drops of blue to one glass.
  3. Place all four glasses in a sunny place for 15 minutes.
  4. Record the temperature of the water in all four glasses.

Analysis and Conclusion:

Did the temperature of the water change? Which water got warmest? What did you learn about colors and light?

Rise & Shine, it’s Summer Time

We are in the middle of summer and I feel like it has just started!!! This is the first year we haven't had a family vacation due to many things happening around the Chattin Household and I don't even know where to begin.

You're not really told when you get married just how hard marriage is for the both of you! We hit a rough spot at the beginning of summer…Rough may be an understatement. We both were at a point where my husband was in his 11th year working on second shift at the railroad and it was getting too overwhelming for me as a mom by myself to keep up with three kids. Towards the middle to end of sports for our kiddos, my husband FINALLY went to first shift. I'm pretty sure that was 3/4's of all our disagreements. But looking back, it allows us to communicate more and be more open, something we had lost touch with after having three kids. I couldn't imagine have any more children.

The kids and I celebrated new babies, good friends, shopping, and fellowship over the next couple of week to the start of summer.


The kids left for the first time over night for bible camp; and they had a blast. We were so worried that the girls would be nervous and afraid from being away from our family, that we were able to check up on them for a day. The girls absolutely loved camp! That feeling that they were safe and in a place of fellowship and God's love made everything better.

We had visited with family in North Carolina and were able to take the kids to the North Carolina Aquarium in Greensboro! They had a blast and it was the first time my sister in law had ever been to an aquarium before! It's always fun with family.

Kaylee finally found an amazing coach who was super engaged, patient, and understanding with her ADHD. We have seen an amazing change for the positive with Kaylee because of it.

Chelsea was able to bridge over to become a brownie for girl scouts! Our entire family was there to watch Chelsea cross the bridge and watch her receive her award. She has a great girl scout leader!

Our children's church director at Eastlake Community Church held a girls event for the girls in our church! It was very amazing to see all the Love these girls have for our Lord. We have amazing people that serve God at our church and am proud to be part of the church.

Our family started taking on small tasks around the house and bringing in more animals for responsibilities for our kiddos.

We changed the color of our porch and shutters to green instead of red. We were done with the red. Big shout out to our kid neighbor for doing a great job💜 We are pretty pleased!

While our kiddos spent the 4th of July in New Jersey with their great aunt, we celebrated Independence Day by welcoming a new baby kitten, Indy, short for independence 🐈🇺🇸

We celebrated and welcomed a new baby niece!!! We haven't met her yet, but are anticipating meeting her very soon! We are so excited to have a neice💜 She is just so beautiful!

We spent a couple of days in the hospital with family for my sister in law, dealing with complications related to her Crohn's. She was in high spirits, but super glad not to get a bag this time.

Chick-Fil-A returned with their best day ever: Customer Appreciation Day! Dress like a Cow and receive a free meal! Every year the kids and I participate in this fun event! We were even more eager to have Chris participate with us! He wasn't so camera friendly this time around tho🐮

This summer has been the summer of taking care of ourselves, health wise! I ended up in the hospital with complications related to my heart! I felt the need to capture every moment because this was such a fun adventure and took stress off of myself. The staff was by far the most amazing and friendly staff ever! I even introduced a nurse to Snapchat!!! These nurses and staff took great care of me and am super proud to live in such a great community where patient care seems to be top priority.

The kids were part of an amazing Sunday Service where our church celebrated in our field(where the new church will be placed) The singing contractors were part of this service and we were able to meet them! The kiddos did an amazing job singing "We Believe" by Newsboys, an old time favorite Christian band for me:)

Kaylee and I were also in need of new glasses! Who would have thought after 32 years of life, I would finally need glasses?! We both love them!

My heart catherization went well and we have a heart ablation scheduled for this coming Thursday at 6:30am. A lot to do and get done before then! My amazing husband has been extremely helpful at home, caring for the kids and helping out more with duties around the house! He shows his love more and more each day💜

School will be starting soon and the kiddos are looking forward to meeting their teachers! Walker tested for Kindergarten and was fully accepted! We are so proud of the little boy he is! He will grow to do great things (We hope)

Finally, we are looking forward to fall and winter…this summer has been so hot and we are not summer people! We are praying for a good solid winter with many winter snowy storms!!!! Bring on the snow Mother Nature, please!!!!!!

Until next post…..

Last week of School

It has been an exciting and an adventurous year for our family. We started off the school year with two parents on opposite work schedules, mom running around everyday it seemed taking care of the three kiddos, and there seemed to have been a few too many arguments that seemed to have been unnecessary. I don’t know how we have survived this year, but by the grace of God, we did! Yay!

Finally after 12 years of being on second shift, my husband made the change to first shift to be with our family. This year was the year that we had three kiddos on three different teams and I just couldn’t do it anymore by myself. I can’t say enough how much it meant to me for him to make the change. Having your husband home in the evenings helping with bath time, homework, and dinner just made everything so much easier.

Kaylee was moved up to Softball and is doing amazingly well. Chris has been able to help out with coaching Chelsea’s tball team. We pulled Walker just because it wasn’t fair to his team or us to not give full commitment to each individual team.

This year had been all too familiar with suffering.

Suffering is a gift from God. Jesus was said to be a man of suffering. He was familiar with suffering; it wasn’t a foreign concept to him. We can be deeply grateful for that simple fact.

Because Jesus suffered, we can receive tremendous courage when we suffer. Out very own Savior knows what it is like to hurt. Jesus knew who to turn to when all else had left him. He knew that suffering would cause him to press in even more to the Father’s love and affirmation.

*Hebrews 5:7-8 Yet while Christ was here on earth he pleaded with God, praying with tears and agony of soul to the only one who would save him from premature death. And God heard his prayers because of his strong desire to obey God at all times. And even though Jesus was God’s Son, he had to learn from experience what it was like to obey when obeying meant suffering.

When Jesus tells you to take up your cross and follow him, you can have the assurance that as you do, his leadership will guide you straight into the loving arms of the father.

 

Life does get hard, but I have children and a father in heaven who love me and that’s enough.

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Hot Mess & A Messy Mama

This evening I came home from work not knowing what I would cook for dinner. Although, I must say that I was thankful for the rain canceling games and practices. A break is always nice! 

Tonight I just felt obliged to fix a grilled cheese sandwich with cheese doodles and applesauce! 

I sat and ate my 1/4 of a grilled cheese sandwich and here I am while the kiddos are in bed, writing in my blog 

Having three kiddos is such a hard task-it really is!!! I’m sure mamas that have more kiddos have it harder!

All the kids are just as excited to see me as I am to see them, but they all want attention one at a time one on one. 

This is basically how tonight went⬇️


It just seems so fast paced from the moment I walk in the door to cook dinner to washing and putting them to bed!

Not to mention, they played in the rain when they came home today!


How do you mamas handle routine? Do your kiddos play sports? How do you manage during sports season?

Of all the things…I’m just thankful God loves this hot mess of a mama! 

These moments go by too fast! We were just married the other day…


Had three beautiful babies yesterday…


…and now everything is going and moving along at such an incredibly fast pace that I can’t keep up!!

Prayers for all you mamas out there tonight!

Goodnight, mamas💜

Greatness of Love

In the moment we hold our newborn for the first time, a new kind of love washes over us. Holding that precious baby is overwhelming and wonderful. We feel at a degree that we have never felt before. It is impossible to define or measure or contain our emotions.

We have the ability to love to such a degree only because God first loved us. He loved us so we could love him and love others. Without him we couldn’t know the greatness of love.

We love because he first loved us. (1 John 4:19)

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The Busy Bee

We seem to think that the busier we are, the better we are. The more activities our kids are in, the better we are equipping them for whatever is to come. Busyness doesn’t mean we are better. But it isn’t bad to be busy either-as long as we don’t have the perspective that the fullness of our lives is determined by how busy we are.

Jesus spent a lot of time in relationship with others. His busy was different than ours. There is so much fullness to be had in quiet evenings at home with our family, a Saturday morning with nothing to do but make pancakes and stay in pajamas, a long walk outside with our kiddos, or tea with a friend. Let’s not put busy on a pedestal; it has a proper place in life-just not the top rung.

The Lord is good to those who depend on him,to those who who search for him.

So it is good to wait quietly for salvation from the Lord.

And it is good for people to submit at an early age to the yoke of his discipline: Let them sit alone in silence beneath the Lord’s demands(Lamentations 3:25-28)

Slow down. Enjoy the journey.


Kaylee and I have ADHD and we are learning to work together! It’s a challenge! We both like to cook and stayed in our pj’s the entire day on Saturday and cook! We learned patience, silence, and even learned more about each other…also, I was sick and needed the rest😂


This little farm boss babe is just that..a boss! It takes patience, again, to discipline her the way Christ wants us to discipline our kiddos because of her high spirited attitude. 


Posting our Disney family vacation pictures made me realize we did not practice patience, maybe that’s why so many things happened to us! He had pink eye and we were extremely hot and frustrated and mad at our photographer for being hot and exhausted-maybe hangry, but I’m sure it was because we were hot. It’s in the past now.

How do you practice patience? How much of a busy bee are you? Are you good at these things as a mom?

Single Mom status

Monday, I was faced with a choice: take kid A to her first softball practice or take kid B to her tball practice. This mom can’t be in two places at once and the struggle is real. A million thoughts go through your head:

  1. Will kid A be mad if I take kid B instead?
  2. Will kid B be mad if I take kid A instead?
  3. What if we just don’t go at all?

My husband works evenings and it’s difficult to split your time when three kids have four different places they need to be.


This mom job can be hard, but I have a God who gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers…after all, moms are soldiers.

Then it’s Wednesday night church and I’m the hunter and gatherer of the children. Making sure they’re clean, hands are washed, but today we decided to throw that all out the window because it’s so beautiful outside, I decided to take our kiddos to the park and get some energy out of them and enjoy the beauty of the fresh air.

Not to forget the two most important days that my husband has off.

We utilize this time for strict family time. It can be a struggle, but manageable when approached the right way.

How do you handle the crazy? The “run your kids everywhere” and be here at a certain time crazy? 

What would Jesus do?

The expression may have become a cliché, but the question is the most important one we can teach our children to ask themselves. It only takes a few seconds, but those seconds could change the entire course of their lives.

Would Jesus stand up for the girl being teased! Would Jesus lie about where he was going? Would he take that drink? 

This world offers endless temptations, and some of it can be a lot of fun-at least in the moment. Whether it’s us, a trusted friend, or an intriguing new acquaintance, sometimes we just want the opinion of someone for just about every decision we make. We need to encourage the only source that matters-the power of prayer!

We all get easily caught in the moment. Gods wisdom is the only true wisdom. Open your heart to God; let him show you the parts you are keeping from him, the decisions you save for yourself. Ask him for the courage to turn everything over to him!

Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Do not depend on your own understanding. 

Seek him in all you do, and he will show you which path to take!(proverbs 3:5-6)

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Immediately after the moment, we went to hit delete. We want to go back in time just a few minutes when we could feel our blood pressure rising and knew we might say something we’d regret. We knew we might lose control because we just couldn’t handle it anymore. We were done. I was done. 

But the moment comes, we react, and then we apologize: it’s the vicious cycle of our humanness. Thankfully, through the blood of Jesus Christ and our repentance, we are forgiven, set free, and released from the burden of our mistakes. We are given a clean slate to start over. 

Some days, like today, that gift feels bigger than other days. Some days, we rely heavily, on the grace of our Lord and Savior just to get through the day and that’s ok. 

Ephesians 1:6-8 To praise of the glory of His grace, which he freely bestowed on us in the beloved. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace which he lavished on us.

Did you know that you ARE forgiven through the blood of Jesus? Accept his gift; and you are forgiven. 
Forgive yourself and keep moving forward.

Hello, Sickness, it’s me…

It’s late on a Sunday night and I’m in my bed with three little kiddos who are comfortably fast asleep and I’m watching ‘Trolls’. I could watch anything, but I’m watching Trolls…

Sickness has returned to our home….again. I’ve been down all weekend with stomach pains and nausea, while my poor kiddos have been suffering with runny noses, high temperatures, and running around naked. Yes, running around naked, my son. 

We spent all evening with Kaylee in the ER. The ER was super busy and Kaylee had a super high temperature. I typically don’t go to the doctors office, never mind the ER, however, the last time Kaylee’s temperature got that high she had a febrile seizure. I’d rather be in a hospital knowing if she had a seizure, she would be safe, than at home with me not knowing what to do. 

We decided to leave since the wait had gone up and her temperature seemed to have gone down; we just went to Kroger and stocked up on ice pops and plenty of rest.

Being sick is such a Debbie downer; we all just want to be waited on and rest and watch a movie, read a book or whatever. 

In Proverbs (17:22), A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. 

We have to remember that while we are sick, we need to make sure that our hearts are joyful, our minds are happy and our souls are at peace. If not, it’ll take so much longer to get better. 

We also have to remember that in Jeremiah, (Jeremiah 29:11) the Lord says, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

Please keep our family in your prayers as we continue to heal and clear up this poor sick family. 

“Love the Chattins”

When God commanded us to love our neighbors as ourselves, he wasn’t saying to have them over for dinner one night and check it off our list. We should love them literally as we love ourselves and our children. This can be difficult. We can’t get over that unkind comment made last week, or last year.

We are commanded to love even when it doesn’t come naturally to us. Our flesh wants to seek revenge or simply not be hospitable. Jesus loved all he encountered. He desires us to be his hands and feet-his walking and talking love here on earth. When we say that we love the Lord, and yet do not show it to those around us and to those we “hate” we look no different than the world.

“Love the Lord God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:30-31

Is there a person is your family or a friend in the community who you’ve wanted to connect with but haven’t? Can you invite them over for a dinner? Lunch date? Breakfast date?

You can spread the love of Jesus by loving those around you-especially those you “hate” by engaging in conversation, inviting them into your home, and/or learning about their life.

 

 

Back to Bedtime Routine

The holidays are over and that means that tomorrow our kids will head back to school. It has been two weeks of non-routine ways in our household and tonight means that this mom has to buckle down to make sure our kids get back into the best routine possible.

  1. After dinner, we usually start off by gathering clothes that our kids will wear and putting them into a bin with their names.(this will help alleviate morning chaos)
  2. Showering; our kids are still young enough to shower together and this saves time for mom. While the kids are in the shower, I’m gathering their pajamas, undies, and socks and anything else they need for bed. Also, making sure they brush their teeth! There are many time apps that give timed visuals on when and how they need to brush their teeth. 
  3. Story time. Story time is crucial, kids respond better at bed time when you read them a story. 
  4. Bedtime Prayers: we say the same prayer at bedtime so the kids understand that it’s important to say prayers. 
  5. Lastly, hugs and kisses! It’s so important to show love to your child, regardless of how angry they’ve made you feel during the day. Forgive and forget, tomorrow is a brand new day.

I want to hear your bedtime routines! Share your routines with me at: momsminivansmesses@gmail.com and you could see them in an upcoming post!

Post Holiday Money Management for Children

Did your kids get money or gift cards for the 2016 Holiday season and you’re unsure about how to spend it? 

If you’re like us and your kids received a couple of gift cards and cash this Holiday season, here are a couple of pointers to help your child keep on point with their finances at any age.

1. Open a Savings Account

The earlier we teach our kids about saving money, the more secure and confident they will become with life savings later on in life. Even at the early age of four, if you are making regular trips to the bank to make deposits or withdrawals, then your child will want to mimmick you and of course your cutie will be subject to a lollipop. No deposit is too small for your child. Be sure to park the minivan and take the kids inside, this will also help your four year old with manners and social skills. Allow the child to be as independent as possible and allow the banker to help your child as well. Interaction is key and a trip to the bank can be super educational for you and your family. 

2. Gift Cards

Did your child receive an unwanted gift card for the Holidays? Don’t know what to do with the unwanted gift card? A lot of Coinstar Kiosks accept gift cards and exchange them for cash(for a small fee, of course) Be involved and communicate with your child:

  1. Does the child want this gift card?
  2.  Would your child rather have cash instead of a gift card?
  3. Can we take the money we get from the gift card and make a deposit into our newly opened savings account?

On the flip side, if your child wants to keep the gift card:

Discuss with your child that they have the flexibility to spend the gift card how they choose. With gift cards, kids are able to make the final purchasing decision on their item(s).

Set spending limits with their gift cards by letting your child know that they can make several small trips rather than just spending the money all at once. 

Regardless of how your child spends their Holiday money, make sure to be involved in all decisions as much as possible. 

It’s Christmas, Mom!

Each year our country seems to slip further and further away from the true meaning of Christmas. 

This year has been different for our family, we decided to take a step back and focus on what’s really important during Christmas=Family, love, the birth of Christ, and being present. 

We took the kiddos to see lights=a first for us which will be the beginning of many more “Going to look at Christmas Lights” tradition in the Chattin household. Here are just a few below:



The kids had a blast and they were able to bring their cell phones, they were only allowed to use them to take pictures:) They took many pictures and were able to show everyone, not to mention, the excitement of showing the pictures to everyone. 

The kiddos are also out of school for two weeks 😳 They are enjoying their time off, Im sure.

Chris and so decided to take the kiddos to visit the festival of trees and our family had a blast..we went with friends, which made it even more fun!


This Christmas as far as presents go, we decided to keep it light. “Santa” is bringing the kiddos rainboots, dolls, socks, play dough and a few Christmas cookie cutters, with a few cooking materials. We decided to keep it lights since we are really just sick of toys! Having multiple kids means an over abundance of unnecessary and unwanted toys, that end up getting donated or sent to other home eventually. We also did get the kids cell phones and so far they’ve been using them for games, taking pictures, and listening to Christmas music! This year just seems so much more festive with the kids growing up. 

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We also celebrated our baby boys birthday, as he turned four!


Visiting friends along the Christmas season is fun, too! 

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We still have a lot to do before the weekend comes, but rest assure that on Christmas morning we will be reading the story of the birth of our Lord and Savior from the Bible to our kiddos. It’s a tradition Chris’s grandmother started and we want to follow.

From our family to yours we hope you have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy Holiday!

Moms, Minivans, & Messes

Cell Phones for Kids, no way!

Yes way! I know, I know…We did what?! Give our girls a cell phone…”They’re how old?!” Oh yeah, they’re six and soon to be eight.

For our girls, we have been pretty impressed so far with how mature they have been.

We handed the oldest child her cell phone first (iPhone 5s), set guidelines, rules, and discipline.

Our soon to be eight year old:

When we gave the phone to Kaylee, we were shocked at how responsible she was with the phone. She was way more excited about the headphones that came with the phone more than she was with the access to calling, texting, or face timing with someone. She has probably sent a whole hand amount of texts since getting the phone last week!! She is more interested in listening to her own music-which is cool because I remember having a Walkman when I was 7/8 and listening to my own music. 

We also gave her access to Snapchat and let her know her boundaries as far as not taking pictures of anyone who is “nakie”because we didn’t want anyone else to see that. So far she has taken pictures of her dog, Rudolph, and her dad. 

Our six year old:

We decided to give our six year old her phone about two days later. She also has been given boundaries, rules, and discipline for her cell phone use. 

Chelsea also uses her phone as a “Walkman” and loves listening to music. 

About Snapchat: our six year old is HILARIOUS with Snapchat, however, very mature! 

Below is a selfie Chelsea took on Snapchat..

Below is a picture Chelsea snapped of her older sister reading to her brother.


We are very pleased with how the girls are doing with their phones! They still get limits and time away from their phones as pictured below🙂 We will keep you posted. 

Christmas is the most Wonderful Time of the Year

It has been a very busy Christmas season so far and as we continue to enjoy the Christmas season, we are enjoying the simple times, life and love all around us. 

In Roanoke, Virginia, they have the annual Christmas tree celebration and we kicked off the start of Christmas by visiting the trees with friends. This is an event we always make our kids wear their pajamas! It just makes the setting so much for comfortable and easy to put the kiddos straight to bed when we get home. 🏡 

It has also been a couple of weeks of sickness and ER visits. With the turn of the winter weather coming, our home usually stays sick this time of the year. Luckily, we are all finally on the mends and doing much better!

This little baby boy will be four soon!!! Hard to believe it was just yesterday he was born. What a glorious time for a baby to be born around the Birthday of our Lord and Savior.

These three are Virginia ready for the best season of all time…Winter❄️☃️🌨


What are you looking forward to this Christmas season?🎄❄️☃️

…and on the third try, God gave us a Boy💙

Having three angels are the best gift God blessed us with, however, he blessed us even greater with a boy after two amazing girls. 

When you’re pregnant with your first child, it’s not a secret that SO many of us moms secretly want a boy-you know to be the protector for his future siblings. It’s turns out once again, that God, had different plans for us.

Just like with my secret post partum depression came a lot of hate. A lot of hate because it seemed that everyone was having boys instead of me and it continued with our second child. My brother and sister in law both had boys and I craved to give birth to a healthy baby boy. My post partum grew into hate and my hate grew into jealousy and my jealously grew into me becoming such a negative person.

Now, let me back up and put into perspective why I truly have always wanted a boy.

I’ve always had trouble with men-my dad was non existent from my life. My mom, who had several men in her life for reasons and troubles with her own personal relationship with her father and brothers. (No blame, however-its life) 

The only male relationship I could stand was the one with my poppop. He was there for me, he was a phone call away, and he was my provider and always bought us food and clothes when my single mom was unable to do so. All other male relationships were completely awkward for me.

Until I was introduced to an amazing man by a group of girlfriends, My future husband.

There are not enough words to explain how humble, loving, God fearing, caring, and respectful my husband is and still continues to be!

With such a great man that came into my life, And the men I had to grow up with in my life, I wanted a boy to love me, a boy to turn out to be just like his daddy, a boy who would grow up and become a God fearing humble man because the last thing our world needs is another loser man who can’t and won’t support his family. I want a boy I can raise who will be there for his family, raise his family, and make sure that God is first in everything they do.


May 2012, my sister in law surrounded us with our girls as we went into the ultrasound room to find out what our third child would be-even color coded our girls with Kaylee wearing pink and Chelsea wearing blue. My sister in law and Chelsea were on top as we found out that in December we would be expecting our boy, finally. So many emotions filled that day from finding out to closing our eyes at night, we just were so overjoyed with emotions. 

Fast forward three years later and with our baby boy turning four next month, we have been blessed with such a fun loving, sweet, caring, funny, God loving baby boy. His blonde hair blue eyes dimpled cheeks nearly puts a smile on my face every day as he is turning out to be the boy we had always wanted. 

As for me personally, it has made me into a better aunt and a little more gentle towards men, knowing that all the men in the world aren’t like the men I had in my life growing up.

It has also made me realize the time I also wasted not spending more time with all of my amazing awesome nephews-because they are all rockstars and awesome cousins💙💜


Life is too short and for this mom, I’m thankful for all my kiddos nieces and nephews includes:) I love you all to the moon and back💙

Moms need to vote, too!🇺🇸

Happy Election Eve!


Tomorrow our country will choose who will run our country for the next four years. I have three reasons why I will be voting tomorrow and you, as a mom, should, too!

1. Our Lord and Savior


Before you practice your right to vote tomorrow, say a prayer for our nation, for America, for our God given life, and for our enemies. 

God has provided me with life and that means that it is important for me to practice my right to vote to make sure that his will is done for our country. 


And just remember….


How could I vote for someone who doesn’t wear an American flag pin? How can I vote for someone who has negatively been in the news for trouble. Pray for our nation, pray for Trump & Hillary.

2. My family, My children, and my Land

This weekend was the opening weekend of muzzleloader season. How does that tie into voting tomorrow you may ask? Well, you see, we were able to hunt on our land and exercise our right to hunt. God provided us with deer to hunt to feed our family. If this amendment is taken away from us, how are we suppose to teach our kiddos to continue to provide our family with food. 


Our kiddos were so excited to have this learning experience with their daddy. If this right is taken from us, how will our children learn essential and necessary life rules. How are children suppose to explore and learn how to survive. 


In the above picture, my daughter is here learning patience, safety, and napping skills. All jokes aside, how cute is this and if our right is revoked this picture would not be available for posting. Our hearts would break.


How would my daughter be able to excoriate her fishing right on our family’s land if our land is taken from our family? She is learning skills that she will be able to pass on to others, her friends, her children, her grandchildren, etc.


If land is revoked from us, how would the future of this handsome fella look for exploring? Kayaking, camping, and other outdoor adventures?

Not to mention, how can I vote for someone who would allow me to abort these three children I solely spent 10+ hours in labor for to give birth? 

How would this mom be able to live without the mom lessons I’ve learned?

3. Moms Everywhere

I’m a mom, with a minivan, and a ton of messes. I’m just like any other mom who wakes up having to take care of their family and children. When you vote tomorrow-educate your children, bring your children, if it’s legal in your state-take a selfie with your child! Allow them to see you pray..Vote for your children and the future that they will have and be part of in our country.
To all mom,

Practice your right to vote tomorrow if for nothing else your right to have your children and Right to raise them in our beautiful land of the free country!

Anxious Hearts, Desired Plans, & Saved by the Grace of God

Being a mom is one of the toughest jobs in the world. A lot of times, I feel anxious because I can’t just let things go. Am I doing this parenting thing right or wrong? Am I disciplining my children as I should?

The desires of our hearts can constantly be at odds with the desires God has for us. When they align, it is a beautiful, peaceful realization. But when they are different, it can create confusion, mistrust, and frustration-often times becaue we lack discernment, which by Christian definition is perception in the absence of judgment with a view to obtaining spiritual direction and understanding.

How do we handle this? Just pray mamas. Pray that our Lord gives us peace. We pray that his will be done no matter what that means for us. In strict obedience to God, we choose not to be anxious, which is easier said than done. He has already promised to guard our hearts. If we as mothers start to feel frustrated or anxious again, we pray. So much of life is out of our control, so why do we bother agonizing when we can just pray.

Matthew 6:33-34 Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things.

What desires do you have that God hasn’t yet shown you? Can you truly release them to his care, trusting him with your life plan?

 

Let us Pray!

Unchanging, Constant , & Steady

For a long time I’ve always asked the same question: “How do I know God is trying to talk to me?”

Tonight, the puzzle was solved. 

My mom Bible Study was completely relevant to tonight’s random discussion with a bunch of great ladies. 


These are pictures of Our oldest, Born seven years ago and my oh my has she changed in her short years. While Kaylee continued to grow into our sweet daughter, God remained the same. The God we prayed to about so badly wanting a child so healthy and bright, is the same God we continue to pray to about our health, well being, and love. 💓

Tonight while sitting at church with friends, we discussed change in jobs. So much so that many years ago jobs were consistent and changes in jobs were rare. Tonight we discussed that changes can happen for the good and to not look at it for the bad. While this has been something I’ve been personally struggling with lately, I know that everything happens for a reason and these reasons are because my God is consistent. He is the same God that was with me through my first job and he is the same God that will be with me through my last. Regardless of how many jobs I have.

We have been married to each other for a little over ten years and even though our appearance has changed (just a little bit😜) and have created three beautiful children, we have had the same God through our wedding date, through the birth of our three beautiful children.


Through faulty health and the passing of much loved ones, like my poppop, God remained the same.


Tonight, my kids drove me crazy so much so that I had to scream to get their attention and whip some butt to get ready for church(😂) but through all the midsts of the post screaming behavior pictures I took of my kiddos, God remained calm and steady and listened to my prayers and calmed anxieties. 

Jesus is the same yesterday and today and forever. Hebrews 13:8

Even though change is not always easy to embrace, I’ve reminded myself to learn to accept it because God has always remained the same. (Consistent & Steady)

His love for us is never-ending. 

Until your pictures become a Memory

Hi, it’s me, Moms, Minivans, & Messes.

This evening was an eye opener for me and I’ll tell you why:

My sister in law said something this morning that caught my attention:

Something to the effect of “I wish I had taken more pictures of our second son when he was born….”

Since I can remember having my own phone, I have always been known to take a picture of something..My drink, my dinner, my messy house, my messy kids, etc. Ive always been ridiculed for taking pictures of EVERYTHING and posting them to social media. I’m making memories because I know one day that is all they will be are memories. These memories make me happy because a year from now I’ll be able to look back at a time where I was extremely happy about a special event in my life.

This is my family and my son and for a short 45 minutes we sat with family and friends and celebrated a young couple giving their lives to each other for the rest of their lives, or a wedding. It was also a reminder of the love we shared when we gave our lives to each other a mere ten years ago.

This is a memory of our first family vacation. The vacation where we had to buy a brand new car because our transmission died, the vacation where we brought two nannies who helped us tremendously, and even got a laugh or two out of the trip.


This memory is when Aunt Edna took Walker for a ride on the golf cart. It’s a memory because one day she will no longer be here physically.


This is a special memory that I will cherish because it was one of our date nights and when I’m feeling down, I always look back to pictures like this and realize that my sweet husband makes me laugh and then I’m reminded why I love him so much. 

Today, we met Jed, a new cousin and he is just precious! I was talking to my sister in law about how she took a lot of pictures. I really enjoyed taking pictures, too because I want our kids to grow up and see all these memories that I have shared. I want to be able to remember when I’m 90 and my dementia has set in that I lived a good life with a loving family.

Today we also stopped by my inlaws and took time to enjoy company with my kids great grandmother, because one day she will also be a memory. Our kids cherish this time with her so much. 

Take as many pictures as you can and enjoy taking them because one day they will only be a memory.💓

Consumed with Limited Influences

For the past several months, my focus was diverted to my career path and I had quickly forgotten many duties.
My Godly Duties

My Spousal Duties

My family Duties

My home Duties

The list goes on and on and on. I was so consumed by my work that I honestly just forgotten my motherly Duties and all the Duties listen above.
God allows things to happen at the right moment at the right time and while some days we may not understand the meaning or the know in it all, we have to be still and know that our Lord has a greater path for us, always!

This was the first time I was able to spend an evening with my husband and go on an annual date! We spent our ten year anniversary singing and dancing, well mostly me singing and dancing, along with Carrie Underwood.  


We had a blast and even enjoyed each other’s company. I couldn’t believe how much time I wasted away from my husband and this beautiful family we created for a job. 
My husband And I discussed many things on the way to the concert, but the one thing my husband said made me realize why we are still married,”I will support you in anything you do” I could mess up a million times and my husband would still have my back. 
We had a truly great time and we’re just in awe that we have survived as a couple this long.

Our three beautiful kids that we made..I was consumed with my job and put them on the back burner. What was I thinking?! Each of our children needed my time and I was consumed with other things that I had forgotten about their needs and how they needed their father. Kaylee needed a lot of attention with our ADHD, Chelsea needed more love, hugs, and kisses, and Walker just wanted more cuddle time. I had forgotten about all that. It was pretty selfish of me and I’ve realized that I had wasted three months of my life neglecting my children to care for other children.

Since I stepped away from my career, I have been able to spend more time with my God, keeping my children more in touch with my Lord, and spending more time in my daily devotions-feeding my soul, that was also neglected.


Since then, I’ve had so much time to consume myself and my responsibilities with positive influences! I’ve never been happier; my children are happier and are learning more about God. My husband and I are finally communicating more about our love for one another and life has been pretty laid back and happy!


God has finally put our life on track, so don’t ever limit your influences and consume them with what God doesn’t want because if you listen, he will tell you!

Hunting: Teaches our family about life, survival, safety, patience, and love.

This past weekend was Youth Day for our young hunters.

Youth day is an important time for our youth to get acquainted with the full aspect of the woods and the outdoors. 

….And our Cheekies was no exception!


Her daddy was super ecstatic to take her out to the woods and between the two of us, he is more of a father to teach our kids patience in the woods!

While Chelsea was super excited and couldn’t contain her excitement, they only saw two bucks and a doe after they were finished with their hunt.

This little spunky six year old learned more in one day than a child who plays on their iPhone/tablet for a whole week!!


Regardless of how you feel about guns and your second amendment right, please note this..

Vote for someone who will allow families to keep their right, continue to provide for their families, and learn love, survival, and patience.

Cheer Mom Status🎀🐾🏈

Never in a million years would I have ever imagined turning into a Cheet mama! Never would I have imagined putting makeup on my beauties and entering them into beauty pageants and cheerleading. However, I have found that when you’re with the right crowd of similar cheer mama’s and grandma’s it makes your life ten times better!


Another warm exciting cheer year for these fine ladies and myself! We support our kiddos, cheer them on, and encourage our kiddos to  have fun and follow through!

Last night was Rec night and once again, we had a blast with the girls💜 Our girls were able to cheer with the SRHS Varsity Cheerleaders!


Our girls had a blast and the moms had an even greater evening! We don’t push our girls to do something they don’t want to, I truly feel that they are surrounded and encouraged by a loving support system that allow them to let loose and have a blast!


Thank you so much to our SRHS varsity cheerleaders for allowing our #bulldogs to cheer and support our current and future Eagles! 


I never imagined I would turn my girls into a cheerleader, but they love it and have fun and that’s all that matters to me!! 


Cheerleading has taught my girls so much about friendship, caring, teamwork, and being an encouragement to one another!

We also have the best coaches around! We aren’t competitive, we just want our girls to have fun and enjoy the life long experiences they are learning in the process. 


Until next post,
Moms, Minivans, and Messes

School, work, family, and Life.

The summer ended with a small family trip to the beach, Assateague Island to be exact. The kids and I had a blast with the family. It was a wonderful way to end the summer season for us!


The school year started and we struggled to get into routine again as all three kiddos started school.  

Walker started his first year as a role model to special needs kiddos and has been doing a great job! We are so proud of him.

As a mom I was not prepared, physically and emotionally, for our last child to “flee” from the house and to become a “big boy”. It has put a lot of strain on me, but currently it has taken me a long time to adjust!

We now have a second grader, a first grader, and a preschooler full time at school. 

I stressed for the longest time about Walker going to school and surprisingly he has been awesome in school with no difficulties! 

The girls are doing well academically and are both way above where they need to be, which makes me a proud mama!


We were able to start enjoying the cooler weather that is FINALLY coming! We spent the day on a family picnic touring the blue ridge parkway! We really enjoy our family time!💜


The girls participated in their first ever pageant and we were so grateful to have my sister in law and cousin help with hair and makeup and a special shoutout to grandma for helping out with the dress, the day of the pageant:) 

The girls didn’t win, but it was an awesome learning experience and truly an eye opener to get them to open up publicly! We will have awesome luck next year!

Our kids recently celebrated grandparents day and it was even more special that their great grandmother was able to attend the special event💜


Thanks to this woman, I’m so happy with a new church!! It’s such an awesome movement when the family can agree on something! Thank you Mrs. Dana for not giving up on me:)

That’s about it for right now, and while I understand that three kids may be nothing for a mama to 4,5,or 6, it’s a bunch for me and that’s the adventure that was planned for me and my family!
Until next post,
Love, 
Jessica

Moms, Minivans, and Messes

In need of my Shepherd: A mother’s struggle with ADHD


This evening I put off my bible study until the last possible minute and spent every last minute on social media because I knew somehow in someway my bible study would speak to me and sure enough it has…

As private as it may seem, I’ve been struggling with Kaylee’s ADHD for quite sometime. The past week has been torturous for me as a mom, even. Tonight’s bible study reminded me that I needed a shepherd, which is why I chose this picture of the girls looking at the sheep, I need to need my shepherd as much as the girls wanted their own sheep. 

As a mom we worry so much about our kids that we forget that we need to care for ourselves and we need a protector. I was also reminded that I need someone more stronger than me to lean on because I need to shed a few tears or because I don’t have all the answers. 

In my low times, I sometimes forget that I have a loving God who has a plan for me and my family all the time, not just whenever.

I was super excited to have an amazing support of “sheep” tonight to comfort me when I needed it most. Whether you think you know about ADHD or not, personally makes me feel like the worst parent ever. Having community support made my heart happy knowing many friends were supporting me and praising Kaylee and supporting us emotionally💜

I feel our world would be such a better place if we all uplifted each other constantly. It felt great to shed tears in front of my friends because I was so concerned about my sweet baby girl. 

So grateful for my group of mamas that stood by me and praised me in my time of need! Do you have your mama Circle? If not get one! 
Thank you mamas!!

#mom #fellowship #praise #devotion #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #adhdawareness #adhd

Mom’s lives matters, too, Dallas.

When you become a mom you have a new found love that you never knew existed until you bring this brand new life into the world, a baby, a miracle.

Yesterday when my husband came home from work, I woke up to Brian Williams reporting that there had been yet another shooting with five dead and several were injured. I really thought it was a dream, but sadly it wasn’t. 

Each of these victims had a mom, a woman who conceived a child, brought life into this world, and raised the child for the greater good. 

There are now five moms who are grieving right now, there are five mothers without their child, there are five mothers who are having to bury their child, there are five mothers who won’t have an opportunity to become a grandmother, and there are five mothers who aren’t able to continue on their child’s journey because their life was taken too soon.

Did these killers think about the mothers when he pulled the trigger? What about his/her own mother? I couldn’t imagine raising a killer, knowing my child that I raised consumed so much hate for people, put a plan into place to leave five mothers in his world to grieve for the rest of their lives each and everyday. 

As a mom, my heart has been broken. I couldn’t imagine raising a child to hate so much, nor could I be on the other end of the spectrum and become a mom in an instant who has to bury my child.

How do we go forward from this awful situation?

We go forward by showing our children, who are the future of our nation, love, peace, and respect. This is America, we live in the land of the free and by that we need to raise children who will live up to those expectations to follow rules, respect authority figure, and to raise a family in such a manner that it will continue to pass the positive morals, rituals, and honor to each generation to follow.

If you’re a mom, please stop for a second today and hug your babies, hug your children, and let them know how much they mean to you. Life is too short and you never know when it will be your last hug, kiss, or verbal goodbye. 

There are five mothers right now who were taken from this…

Mother’s lives matter, too, Dallas.

Independence Day🇺🇸

Ask your child what it means to be free….

Kaylee: (7)”That you can do whatever you want.”

Chelsea: (6)”You can do whatever you want in the country.”

Walker:(3)”A train”

These answers are appropriate for their ages in how their mind operates.

Do we as moms live like we are free, or are there things that we are slaves to? 

On this Independence Day, I’m thankful for the handful of opportunities I get on a daily basis to learn, love, and be free with my children. 

Yesterday we spent precious time with family, time that we will never have again  because time is limited and in that time we laughed, loved, and lived a little. Fireworks and sparklers entertained the adults and kids, while the endless amount of food and drinks seemed to entertain our bellies. 


It was nice sitting on the ground of the family farm with family, cousins, and in laws watching the fireworks go off all around us, and for the most part, right in front of us. 


On this Independence Day, I’m grateful for these slow rainy days enjoying the company of my children because when you’re a working mom, life is hectic.

Just like Christ, he set us moms free to enjoy his completed work on the cross. May the God of all comfort fill your heart with a renewed ability to enjoy your freedom.


Above: Cousins posing silly for a picture.


Above: My nephew and me getting ready to enjoy a firework show!

Daddy helping our kiddos play with sparklers!  

Lastly, to top it off, mom celebrated by herself with a nice mom-drink! 


I’m signing off now to watch the Macy’s 4th of July firework celebration on TV with My kiddos!
Happy 4th of July Moms!🇺🇸